30 Day Encouragement Challenge Final Update

For the month of April, I have been doing the 30 Day Encouragement Challenge for Wives (PDF) from Revive Our Hearts. This is also a part of my 101 in 1001 Project.

This is a challenge to speak positively to and about your husband each day. There is also a bible verse and challenge for each day.

I have been journaling everyday in this challenge. Here are days 21 through 30:

Day 21
Bitterness and holding grudges can really come in the way when we are trying to encourage our husbands. The best thing to do is forgive your husband. We are called to forgive one another (Ephesians 4:32)! If we (Wives) would just let some things go, our marriage would be better for it! Let’s try to keep short accounts with our husbands.

Day 22
Here is a verse that needs to be in our mind constantly, Matthew 12:36, “I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak.” Whoa! There are so many times when I’ve spoken so carelessly. I need to stop. right. now.

Day 23
Do you have a disciplined husband? If so, let’s not just think it! Let’s tell them! We need to be encouraging our husbands every time we can! Everyday, at least!

Day 24
Today this sentence from our reading really spoke to me, “Negativity makes a man feel like a failure, and may make him to want to give up.” How many times I’ve been negative! I never want to make my husband feel like a failure, because he is not! Yes, he is a sinner, just as I am. But we are both striving to leave for Christ. I never want to make my husband give up on that because I was negative!

Day 25
Do we create an atmosphere of peace? Do our husbands want to come home after work? If not, we need to do better (Psalm 34:14b)!

Day 26
When we choose to encourage our husbands we will see a change in them, and probably in ourselves as well! We have the ability to make them feel amazing, and also like a failure. This is a choice that we make, what are we choosing to do?

Day 27
Today we are to encourage our husbands courage. I personally have a very courageous husband and I absolutely love him for that! But, I am not talking about being a “tough guy.” I am talking about the courage that comes from the Lord (Psalm 31:24)!

Day 28
Today is all about humility. That is often the culprit in our problems with encouraging, our own humility. Let’s seek and pray to the Lord to help us!

Day 29
Our culture is completely sex saturated, does your husbands fight this battle with the flesh? Why don’t we help them some, pray! We need to be in prayer for our husbands battling the temptations all around them! Pray!

Day 30
This last day is focused on speaking with love, like when you speak to a friend. Our husbands are supposed to be our friends, so we should speak with love to them. Friendships grow through the good times and the bad times, friends are there for each other. Does your husband know that he is also your friend?

I have really been challenged in the past month to purposefully encourage my husband instead of speaking to him however I choose. I think it is so important to build up our house, not tear it down (Proverbs 14:1), and this challenge has really helped me to have more better days than not!



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Introduction
1st Update
2nd Update
Final Thoughts (YOU ARE HERE)

Word Filled Wednesday

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Finding Faith in a Skeptical World by Chet Galaska

I am still on my reading roll! The next book I just finished reading is Finding Faith in a Skeptical World. I read this book as part of a Pump Up Your Book Promotional Book Tour.

This book is written by a former atheist turned Christian who had a lot skepticism about Christianity that held him back for many years. The chapters in this book tackle many subjects that once stood between him and obtaining faith in Christ.

This was an interesting read for me. There was a lot of great information, and I really felt like the author started off very strong. However, I found myself disagreeing with the author on three major topics, which I am going to take the time and discuss thoroughly (Sorry that it’s long…) in this post.

There were a lot of good things in this book including sharing the gospel, but there were also some issues that were raised biblically. I do believe that the author has a heart for Christ and spreading the gospel. However, I feel like the author may not have done enough research and gained enough information to have written a book with so many theological topics that take a while to understand and grasp and then be able to communicate.

By posting this review, I am in no way trying to say that the author is not a Christian, only God knows the state of each of our hearts, and from this book I can say that I d believe the author is a Christian. I am just trying to share what I see as statements that do not align with the Bible.

1. On pg. 28 the author says this of forgiveness, “…Christians aren’t obligated to forgive unless the offender acknowledges the wrong and commits to changing his behavior.” I do not believe that this is a biblical sound statement. And actually later in the book on pg. 107 the author states that forgiving men who sin against you is an important part of the Christian walk, quoting Matthew 6:14 as the biblical proof. Those two statements contradict themselves to me, but besides that, let me explain why I feel the way that I do.

Matthew 6:14-15 says:

For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

This tells us very clear cut that if we forgive, we will be forgiven. However, if we do not forgive, then we, in return, will not be forgiven. This says nothing in regards to if the offender seeks forgiveness or commits to changing their behavior. We are obligated to forgive, no matter what, otherwise we lose our forgiveness.

2. “Why Do Bad Things Happen?” is the discussion in Chapter 12 (pg. 59-64). Here is the author’s stance on the subject, “Many people believe that God directs and controls everything. If this were the case, it would be impossible to regard him as good, since he would be the deliberate cause of all these tragedies.”

I think that bad things happen to show God’s glory. By saying that God is not in control of everything, you are taking His glory away from Him! He is in control of everything! Let’s look at when God sent the 10 plagues over Egypt. God directed this and controlled every single minute of it. The plagues caused a lot of harm. But God said this in Exodus 7:3-5:

But I will harden Pharaoh’s heart, and though I multiply my signs and wonders in the land of Egypt, Pharaoh will not listen to you. Then I will lay my hand on Egypt and bring my hosts, my people the children of Israel, out of the land of Egypt by great acts of judgment. The Egyptians shall know that I am the Lord, when I stretch out my hand against Egypt and bring out the people of Israel from among them.

God sent the plagues over Egypt so that He could multiply His signs and wonders. He did this for His glory! So that the Egyptians would know that He was the Lord!

Sometimes we can’t explain why things happen, but we have to remember that God is in control and have hope in the promise that he gives us in Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Without God being in control, we would have no hope to get us through the day. So, praise be to God that He is in control!

Another reason why bad things happen is for us to be challenged and grow in our faith. Look at what James 1:2-4 says:

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

When we are faced with trials and struggles, we are to have joy! Because the testing of our faith will help us develop steadfastness and it will help us to become perfect and complete! Our trials helps us learn and grow closer to Christ! Without bad things, we wouldn’t be tested and grow.

3. The last problem that I found in the book was on pg. 100 and was on the topic of baptism, “Some people think that all born agains must be baptized as adults. While many born again Christians have been through a believer’s baptism by immersion, it’s not necessary.” He quoted Titus 3:5 as proof of this statement.

Titus 3:5 says, “He saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit.” Yes I completely agree with this. Salvation comes from a personal relationship with God, it is an act and change of the heart, there is nothing we can do to earn this.

However, I really feel like the author misses the point by not talking about how important the act of obedience is in relation to being baptised. I do not believe that being baptised saves a person, but I do believe that being baptised is a step of obedience for a new believer in Christ.

Lots of people like to individualize baptism and make it all about them, which I feel like the author does clearly in this chapter. However, when we make baptist an individualistic ritual instead of a church ordinance that proclaims the glory of the gospel, we are missing the mark. Romans 6:3-4 says:

Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life.

This is such a beautifully painted picture and proclamation
of the Gospel of Jesus Christ! I love how my pastor says it, “We must redeem such a glorious ordinance from an empty sign of self-glorification to an all surpassing glimpse of the glory of Jesus Christ and the redemption that He brings to all who call upon the name of the Lord.”

I am not saying that these are the only issues found in this book, these are the three issues that stood out to me, there may be more. I would encourage anyone who would read this book to read it with your Bible close and checking anything that you feel is questionable.

You can learn more about this book by visit Chet Galaska’s website.

What’s On Your Nightstand?

What’s On Your Nightstand? is a monthly meme on the fourth Tuesday of every month from 5 Minutes for Books.

There are several different ways to participate (Click here to learn more about that). I am going to participate each month by sharing what books I have read and written a review for in the last month and what books I would like to read in the next month.

In addition to the following list, I also have a master list of books I am planning on reading in 2009. I am challenging myself to read 75 books! I update the master list regularly with reviews of the books I have read. You can check that out here.

Well, participating in the Sping Reading Thing (My Spring Reading List) has definitely given me my reading drive back!!! I am so happy about it too!

Books I Have Read In April:

Practicing Hospitality

This book has taught me so much! My mother worked a lot growing up and didn’t really get to teach me all the “homemaker” skills that I would love to have. So, I have been looking to books to learn more about my role as a wife, keeper of the home, and future mother. This book has taught me so much about hospitality and the ministry that a woman can have from her home.

Finish reading my review here.


Two Hearts Praying As One

Michael and I have gone through spurts of praying together and then not praying together. It has been so nice while reading this book to be consistently praying together and we plan on keeping it up! Praying is such a wonderful intimate tool to take advantage of in your marriage!

Finish reading my review here.

A Woman & Her God

This book encouraged and challenged me in my walk with Christ. Here is a quote I loved from the chapter “A Woman and Her God” written by Beth Moore (pg. 7):

Spiritually speaking, a relationship with God is like feeding our souls with rich, luscious foods. We were never meant to go on a spiritual diet. We don’t have to be lean with God. This is one area of our life where we can be lavish. Our souls were created to feast on Him.

Finish reading my review here.

Free & Clear

Being a good steward of my money is so much more than tithing. It is spending every bit of my money in a God glorifying way. God has blessed me with this money and I should be spending it wisely!

Finish reading my review here.

The Noticer

This book really reminded me to have a positive perspective. It is so easy to start thinking negatively about my situation. But, I have to remember, sometimes I just need a little perspective!

Finish reading my review here.

This was an interesting read for me. There was a lot of great information, and I really felt like the author started off very strong. However, I found myself disagreeing with the author on thre
e major topics, which I am going to take the time and discuss thoroughly (Sorry that it’s long…) in this post.

Finish reading my review here.

Books I Plan To Read in May:




* Rolling Over

I am so excited that I have gotten my reading motivation back!!!

If you want to read other people’s lists, click here.


I’ve got a book giveaway starting this Friday, May 1st, and five people are going to win a copy of the book A Family Guide to the Bible, before it’s released, thanks to Crossway Books!!! Come back on Friday to enter!

The Noticer by Andy Andrews

I just finished reading The Noticer as a Thomas Nelson Book Review Blogger. I have to say that this was a very quick read. I got it in the mail this morning and had it finished by this evening.

The Noticer is an inspirational book sharing the story of a man, Jones, that visits many people and helps them re-evaluate their perspective on life and their current situation. The people that Jones visits are mostly in crisis, they feel hopeless and lost. Jones tries to help each person gain perspective. In reading this book, Jones really causes us readers, as well, to re-evaluate our perspective on where we stand in our lives and our current circumstance.

The first thing that really touched me in this book was when Jones reminds one of the people that, “Whatever you focus upon, increases” (Pg. 13). This is something I forget all too often. When I think about what I am lacking, I will always think of more and more and more things. But, the opposite is also true! If I think about what I am thankful for, I will always find more and more and more things! Having a thankful attitude is much better, in my opinion, and that is what we are called to do as Christians (Psalm 100:4)!

This book really reminded me to have a positive perspective. It is so easy to start thinking negatively about my situation. But, I have to remember, sometimes I just need a little perspective!

Do you need a change of perspective in your life?

For more information you can visit The Noticer Project. Or you can check out these videos featuring Andy Andrews and The Noticer:

Why am I the Wayward
Why am I the Lover Lost
Why am I the Worrier
Why am I the Lustful Youth
Why am I the Workaholic
Why am I the Useless
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