Let’s think about this…
What do our current actions say about our marriage and our attitude about our marriage and our husband?
Are we on the computer* more than we are with our husband?
My husband once said before that is seemed like my blog was more important than him. Whew! That was hard to hear…But, it made me realize that he thought that because I was spending more time on the computer doing things related to my blog than I was spending time with him. And, worst, I was sacrificing spending time with him to spend time working on my blog…
Like I said, it was hard to hear, very hard to hear. But, I am so glad that he said it! It helped open my eyes and I truly realized that my actions speak so much louder than my words!
My husband is more important than blogging, and I want him to know that! So, that means I need to keep my priorities in check!
*You can change this for anything that you may be putting before your husband.
Are we investing in our marriage by spending time together?
I say investing because spending time with our husbands will always yield a return! The question is, are we investing? Are we scheduling time to spend together?
I remembering reading The Love List and the habits that are suggested in the book to cultivate love in a marriage. It really is all about being intentional!
I personally love “dating” my husband. I love planning to go out together and enjoy one another’s company. So, this is easy for me. But, if this doesn’t come naturally…then it is definitely worth working on!
Are we doing things to make our husband’s life easier?
These are things that we know will bless him. Like tonight, I came home from work and saw my husband’s pile of stuff for work for him tomorrow. His shirt was wrinkled and the iron was setting next to it.
So, he was going to get up and iron his shirt before going to work in the morning. I went ahead and ironed it for him. This will make his morning easier and maybe help start his day on a positive note knowing that I thought of him.
It’s the little things like that that can make a big difference!
Are we watching our thoughts and attitude?
I know that this one isn’t really an action…but it can effect our actions! Do we think about our husband? During the day, do we think loving pleasant thoughts about our husband?
Or do we let our mind wander on things he isn’t doing or things we would like him to do…
The way you think of your husband will affect your actions and attitude towards him! Our minds can make something so small into something large and change our attitude and actions in a mere second! Let’s keep it under control!
Do we desire to spend time with our husband…intimately?
This one is so important. Does you husband know that you desire him? That you want to be with him intimately? Is he the only one who initiates your time spent together?
This can really have a BIG impact in your marriage. If you husband knows that you don’t want him, or are thinking about 5 others things you could be doing, or just “marking” something off your to do list…I’m afraid you are putting him at risk!
I recently asked a close friend, who is a pastor, what are some things I can do to be a good help to my husband (Who is a future pastor). He responded, “I’ve got one thing for you. Have sex with your husband. And enjoy it! What is one thing plaguing our pastors today? Sexual immorality. You see it everywhere. You want to help your husband and his ministry? Then desire him and spend time together intimately, and often!”
I would have to agree with him wholeheartedly. And honestly, that goes for every wife, not just ministry wives.
So, how are your actions? Do you have some things you want to change or do better? Commit to doing them today! And then reap the benefits in your marriage!
Please remember that as I am writing and sharing this series about being intentional as a wife…I am really writing my personal thoughts and things that I want to do in my life to benefit my marriage. I have a desire to be intentional in my marriage and purposely pursue things that will cultivate our love and commitment.
I am sharing these things because I figured that they could also benefit you! So, I hope you are enjoying this series so far…Stay tuned because I’ve got one more day for you tomorrow!
