Today I am finishing up my thoughts about being an intentional wife…and I am talking about an area that I have seen great improvement in my own life with, but an area that I, personally, still struggle with.
Do you understand how much power we have with our words??? Let’s look at Proverbs 18:21,
Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
and those who love it will eat its fruits.
My words have the power to give life! Or death...
That is a huge responsibility! And I cannot tell you how many times I take that responsibility lightly, when talking with my husband, when talking about my husband.
The reality is, I have the power to build up my husband and encourage him with my words (Being a Wise Woman according to Proverbs 14:1). However, I also have the power to tear him down…
These can both be done in private…and public.
I N P R I V A T E
How do we talk to our husband? When we are having a discussion…maybe even a lively discussion…do we still honor him with our words? Do we still speak with love? Or do we throw it out the window…
These is really where I struggle. Growing up…when we fought, we fought, and we got loud. I’m afraid to say that I can easily fall back into that way of fighting…very easily.
I have to always be on guard with my words, especially when I am getting (or are) frustrated or upset. I hate that my husband, the man I love so dearly, sees me at my worst. Not many others have that opportunity…But, he gets the worst of me sometimes…
Thankfully, God has really been shaping and molding me and my words during the past 5 years. I am starting to truly grasp the power that my words have and hold the responsibility close.
I N P U B L I C
What about when talk with our children or other family or friends? Do they always hear us complaining or grumbling about our spouse? Or are they hearing an anthem of praise?
This can really be a problem for some women. We are generally social, by nature! We love to get together with other women. And it is a wonderful thing!
But, I have been in a group of women where we are having a great conversation…and then it happens.
Someone says something about their husband, negatively. And then everyone joins in! I’m going to be honest…I cannot handle it…
I used to be one of those women…then I realized how that is damaging my thoughts, my attitude, and my marriage. How did I feel after that session of complaining? I felt like my husband wasn’t doing enough, or wasn’t good enough…
Instead, if we would get together and then talk about the wonderful things our husband is doing, we would leave in a good mood and thinking highly of our men.
I know which one I want! What about you?
I hope you enjoyed our talk about marriage the past few days! Have a great weekend!
