“Becoming” the Right Partner

I am loving this book I am reading (Sleep, It Does a Family Good)! Not only am I learning a lot about sleep. But, honestly, it is causing me to reflect and think about many other areas of my life. I already shared a little bit on At the Well earlier this month.

Today I’m going to share more. This quote is from pg. 136,

I believe that success at marriage is not about “finding” the right partner; it’s about “becoming” the right partner.

Now, of course, in the context of this book, the author is talking about sleep, and being compatible, and such as that.

However, I think that this quote clearly has application for marriage, in general, as well.

How many times do we hear someone describe their future (and usually unidentified) spouse as “Mr. Right.” Our culture today points a HUGE emphasis on soul mates, matches, and compatibility.

Where does the fact that we are all sinners come into play?

Your future spouse, or current spouse (Yes, married ladies, this is good for us to hear too), is not going to be Mr. Right all the time! It is impossible. He is a man who falls short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23), he is going to mess up, he is going to make mistakes.

However…the beautiful part of marriage, and of this quote, is that we are all on a journey.

I think that this effects us two ways.

Firstly, we need to realize that each day your husband is becoming more and more “right” for you. The two of you are molding and shaping lives together on this journey. You are grower closer together and becoming more “right” each day.

Secondly, we need to aim to become more “right” for our husbands. Is there something he would like us to learn how to do better, or cook more often, etc? Is there something we can do today to becoming more “right” in his eyes?

There you have it ladies, what can you do today to “become” the right partner for your hubby?